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I am a single mama of two boys, Max (6) and Oliver (4). We live in the Nashville area, I am originally from Florida, but I have been here about 10 years and absolutely love it. I am a working momma now after being home for 4 years with my boys. I went back to work in April of this year and it has been a good change but quite the adjustment. I love helping others, watercolors, traveling, reading, cooking, watching too much Netflix and of course being a Mom! This year has been hard, but also one that has helped me learn a lot about myself! The good, bad and ugly. I am so thankful for Phoebe, having me as a guest on her awesome blog! I look forward to chatting with you all!
Confetti + Crumbs: What has given you the most joy as a mother? Describe it.
Marissa: Watching my boys grow into men. While it is sad, I love watching their personalities show through and to watch them become their own little humans. Each of them has different personalities, likes and dislikes, and while I cannot believe they are getting so grown it brings me so much joy to watch them deal with life as it throws the curve balls. I know they are only 6 and 4 but they sure are teaching me a lot in this season of life we are in right now. They are showing me patience as I am learning how to become a single mom, as I figure out how to balance life, work, dinner, baseball practice, laundry, cleaning, cooking all on my own. It is hard. So very hard, but they bring me joy in the hard times. I am so thankful for them.
Confetti + Crumbs: How do you make time for yourself? Favorite me time activity?Marissa: Well, now that we are two separate households (me and the boys’ dad share 50/50 custody) so I actually do have time for myself, but it is not all that it is cracked up to be. I miss it. I miss the 5:30 AM wake up calls, the constant questions, the never ending bottomless pits of stomachs, constant tattle tales, brothers being brothers… I miss it all. When they are not around it is so strange. The silence is truly deafening and I am clueless on what I even should do. It is even harder when they are at their dad’s over a weekend and I am not busy with work. I know what you are thinking momma… “Wow, is she really complaining about silence?” Yes, yes I am. For the last 6 years, I have been with my children every.single.day. of their lives… unless I was on vacation. Which was rare. So for me to go from seeing my kids EVERY single day to now 2 days at a time and then not for 5 days at a time sometimes… is just plain heart-wrenching. I know this is kind of a different way of answering this question but that is how I feel about my free time most days. However, some days… yes, it is nice to be able to go get my nails done, clean my apartment and go grocery shopping kid free. Those are for sure PERKS! 😉
Confetti + Crumbs: What’s your #1 tip for keeping a clean house?
Marissa: Hire a maid. HAHA, I wish! 😉 My #1 tip is to just stay organized with it, do a little each day so you aren’t cleaning every weekend all weekend. Also, just use the good cleaning stuff! I have these incredible cleaning products I swear by if you are interested in knowing more about them let me know and yes they are affordable!!!
Confetti + Crumbs: Favorite family time activity?
Marissa: The boys and I have been BIG on playing board games lately when I moved into my own place I didn’t take much and I did not take any of the boy’s electronics. At first, it was weird – not having the Wii U for them, the iPad, the DS… But we slowly just brought out puzzles, board games, card games, etc. Now we have SO much fun together playing games, laughing and being silly. Now that I do not see them every day- the time I do have with them is special so I try to make the most of it. SO as of right now board games “game night”/ “movie night” those are a few of my favorite family time activities!! 🙂
Confetti + Crumbs: Biggest advice for a new mom?
Marissa: Slow down. Breathe. Soak it all in. One day you are going to wake up and your little baby will be almost as tall as you, reading books, spelling words and telling you what a compound word is. You will cry and think to yourself, how did I let this happen? How did I miss this? How is he this old already and already smarter than me! HA! I remember feeling overwhelmed, tired, and rolling my eyes when people would tell me that “time would fly” but they were so very right. It really does fly and then time just keeps going faster and faster. SO, soak it up, change those diapers, wash those baby clothes, rock that baby all night if she/he wants to, sing him/her to sleep even if it takes an extra 10 minutes from your “late night mom time”. It will be worth it because you aren’t going to look back and remember all the times he/she cried and cried until they couldn’t anymore… or the times they exploded poop all over their car seat… You are going to remember the times you took to rock them to sleep, to read them the extra book, to sing them that song, to hold them instead of cleaning… just slow down and give yourself a break. 😉
Show and tell time:
I am thankful for the hard times for they have helped me develop into a person I had lost a long time ago. I am thankful for the outlet of social media, for blogs, to be able to help others in similar or even worse situations than I have been in, that I am still working through. The internet gets a bad rep sometimes but for me, it has really helped me with healing and moving forward. I am just thankful for a way to share with others and even hear from others: encouragement, heartbreak, motherhood, love, loss, and all the rest. Life is hard but I am thankful for a community that helps hold each other up when going through the hard times! I do not have a recipe or story to tell, but I just wanted to let anyone reading this know, you are not alone.
Thank you, Marissa, for sharing your story with us today!
Join us next week for another round of Naptime with Confetti + Crumbs.